Why did he dump me? How did this happen? What went wrong? Why did he just break up without notice? How can I win him back?
Getting dumped always stings, even if it wasn’t a very serious relationship, and ultimately there are millions of questions regarding why men dump women buzzing around in the dumpee’s head that seemingly have no answers.
Take a breather. There is no short and straight answer to the biggest question of why men dump women. You really want to know why he dumped you? There’s only one real way to find out, and even that’s not a surefire technique.
But if you really want to know the truth, the only way to get it is by asking him directly. A word of caution here though. Don’t ask right away after you were dumped. Wait at least a couple months without calling him, then make contact again.
This is very important. When you talk with him, you should be somewhat detached, but remain civil at the same time. Stay positive and friendly with him and don’t be angry or hostile at all. Remember though, it is your right to ask this. It may even be necessary for you to bring closure to this part of your life-although some women don’t see a need for closure at all.
Guys cite all kinds of reasons for why men dump women-not enough intimacy, he was bored, he felt smothered, you were asking him to commit too much, you failed to meet his needs, and so on. This is all pretty meaningless.
In your case, any of these reasons for why men dump women could be it, or maybe none of them. You wont really know until you ask him the question, and the challenge is that he may not even give you an honest answer. The reason he may not be honest is cause he may be trying to protect himself from his own emotions-that’s right, HIS emotions.
The truth is that lots of people these days have put up so many walls of defense when it comes to their emotions that they no longer have any idea how they feel about something, or why they feel the way they do. This is particularly true in the case of relationships.
So make a very honest assessment about your role and the guy’s role in the relationship and be truly willing to be move on(Paradoxically, this is also possibly the surest way to get your ex boyfriend back). The less desperate you seem and the more willing you are to move on, the more curious he is likely to be about you. This curiosity will pique his interest in you again.
